The Core Wounding between the “Masculine” and “Feminine” aspects of Divinity.


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“Beloved” – Autumn Sky Art

In the last twenty-four hours millions of voices have declared ” me too”, including this one. The spontaneous wave across social media calling for everyone who has experienced any form of sexual harassment or abuse to add their voice has become a phenomenon.

As the collective sea began to rise, I did not add mine lightly, not primarily through shame, but because I resist group campaigns identifying any kind of lable. And , no doubt, sensing the sickening gut churning sorrow of what was rising. What so many of us have carried for lifetimes.

Even in all the inner work I have engaged over decades, I again discovered forgotten memories which I had put aside as “normal” or in some way “my fault”. As Kali rose I knew a deeper and deeper reclaiming of the Truth we are all so desperate for. Of Union. Washed through with love and compassion for each of us experiencing this pain. All of it counts. All of it is the very food for Cosmic growth.

The essence of social media can be about proclaiming, especially amongst so-called conscious communities. There is little deep listening. Moreso it is an insatiable energy consumer and all that is put in is so transient. Today’s viral posts become tomorrow’s cute cat videos. In this campaign, however, I sensed a deeper call to Truth, a wide deep ache bubbling. And so, despite misgivings, I knew I had to add this one voice. Firstly, because addressing the wounding at the heart of the masculine and feminine expressions of the Divine is right at the heart of my Cosmic calling as an emissary of the Goddess. And yes of course, like EVERY female on this planet, I have my own experiences of being abused because of my gender and sexuality. I know I have also misused my own sexual energy both through repression and seeing it as my (only) place of value. I know also I have been a male many times. I have raped, abused and diminished my lovers and mothers and daughters, just as I have been abused. We all carry the primordial seeds of separation and the tension between yin and yang, however this has played out in creation and time.

It may also be time to use the very tools of the establishment (internet, social media) with awareness of its many agenda of distraction and manipulation to nonetheless break through and buid new paradigms.

I have zero interest in blaming or judging. We ALL bear these wounds. Vitally, this particular call to voice is inclusive of BOTH men and women. I thirst for the brave voices of our men, both in sharing where you have been shamed or controlled by another’s sexuality and in owning where you have misused your own sexual power, consciously or unconsciously. This is about all – female or male, “perpetrator” or recipient speaking up to shatter this ancient collective wounding, with love, courage and compassion.

I am seeing a number of strands showing in this conversation. In the conscious circles I connect with, there is largely an absence of blatant judgement and victim shaming. What is just as toxic though is the spiritual whitewashing that can be blatant dissociation or subtle separation. Well-meaning attempts at “positivity” can actually be not only profoundly damaging they can be downright dangerous if they disempower one single voice from speaking out. And the denial of reality – negates our actual God/dess given opportunity to rise. To face the worst horrors and the numb normality of how our Divine essence is abused and controlled and TAKE this all the way into the forging of new Cosmic substance.

I hear the call to the masculine, to explore how the female has wounded and abused her power and to own his own misuse. I witness a willingness to DO the work of radical responsibility, internally and externally, amongst some of us. And it only takes some. One by one by one. Breathing. Feeling. Speaking out. Walking.

This declaration of courageous transparency, as well as unity, is essentially followed by #anditstopsnow #nomore. Will this engender real collective shift? Who can know, but that seed of potential is there, if nourished in pure consciousness and love, free from the pull of the oldest, achiest stories of fear and blame.

This is a vast spiritual spot aching endlessly to be evolved to wholeness. A distortion in consciousness that utterly embraces every single voice and story while calling us to the Cosmic depths of the origins of both fracture and Union that I fully appreciate is still prevalent.

In the absolute and fullest embracing of our pain, a pain in every soul on this planet, we must also reach to the Stars, exhale to the Cosmos, calling in That which IS us, which created “us”, which sings to us to help fabric a new weave in the mesh of Love. As we hold each other, literally or virtually, wiping tears, breathing in the no words, all there is is Love.

I love us all in this brave endeavour.

Very much to be continued..

Helen serves consciousness and the Goddess, however, she is called. This has looked like global events, light transmissions, teaching, one to one sessions and writing. It also looks like being a mother to five beings, quiet ceremony and Being, and adoring her Beloved as they lead each other deeper and deeper into their Cosmic mission. Explore her site and facebook where you are so appreciated if you wish to connect for occasional mailings.


6 thoughts on “The Core Wounding between the “Masculine” and “Feminine” aspects of Divinity.

  1. James Marshall

    You’ve put your finger right on what’s missing: deep listening. However, looking at my own path to softening as a man and the current general state of man, we are several years away from even beginning to approach the outer edges of listening, let alone deep listening. Which leaves me with the question: how do we start to heal this? What are the practical steps? How do we get to start a dialogue, men and women? I feel that man is so out of touch with himself, so far from self-awareness, that even finding our way collectively to the beginning of this process will be a major achievement. I’m aware that use of words like “self-awareness” might also be a barrier since it only has meaning to me because of my own path.

    “I know also I have been a male many times. I have thus raped, abused and diminished my lovers and mothers and daughters.”
    This was hard to read, equating maleness with rape, abuse and diminishing others, but how would I put it differently? Perhaps in the experience of women, maleness *has* become associated in this way because so few men behave considerately all the time. I guess what you’re saying is that rape, abuse and putting others down are about power – which is a creation and currency of the ego and common to men and women – whereas being a male sounds more like gender, like possession of a penis, and therefore nothing to do with abuse of power.
    I see language and its use as one of the major areas to address right now – it’s already clear that most will not hear the message when they take offence at the tone. It is important to find a common language and uncover the reasons behind why words are used in the way that they are.
    As you say, we need deep listening.


    1. Helen Luminosa Quail Post author

      Dearest James, thank you so much for your thoughtful response. It is deeply encouraging.
      I suggest we begin both one being at a time and holding the intent for collective shift.I do see this dialogue happening, not least through this recent social media initiative but also for some decades in those exploring conscious community and relating. It is rare and precious yet I witness some men who are wholly committed to looking, exploring and learning, as are some women. In all cases, it is but a proportion of the mass who prefer to stay in unconsciousness but I feel vital openings in both enquiry and expansion.
      I apologise for a careless use of language. Of course being male does not automatically equate with sexual abuse, though sadly reality is that in very many cases it is present even if in so-called subtle or social acceptable degree as we all encounter on a daily basis.
      I passionately support this as a dialogue and priority for ALL of us, both honouring the unique nature of being of either female or male gender in a patriarchal society, disconnected from the Sacred nature of sexuality. These are some of our most core wounds as expressions of Source. I so appreciate your willingness to listen and share and explore. Peace dear brother.



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